Beyond Small Talk: Why You Need Your Mountain-Climbing Relationships

Lately, I have had many conversations with friends and clients about this deep, gnawing feeling of loneliness, an ache for real connection and true community. I felt it myself during a recent visit with my father, whose world is no longer as expansive as it once was, keeping him from the vibrant community he used to enjoy. What struck me in those moments was that it is more than just “connection” we are longing for. We are yearning for our mountain-climbing relationships. This includes friends and family!

These aren't your everyday coffee-chat buddies, the ones you have perfectly pleasant, surface-level conversations with. And don't get me wrong, those relationships are important too! But your mountain-climbing relationships are the ones who genuinely have your back. They get you in a way few others do. They'll catch you if you stumble, see you for who you truly are, hear what you're really saying, and acknowledge your presence in a way that settles your soul. They are absolutely essential for your well-being.

While deep bonds are vital at any age, they become even more important as we get older. When life’s pace changes and you may not be as immersed in life as you once were, the risk of feeling like an observer rather than a participant can grow. This can lead to a quiet, often painful sense of not mattering anymore. I have felt this shift in my own life, and it has deepened my gratitude for the trusted few who share the view from my summits and help lift me from the valleys. You need to know who your mountain-climbing crew is.

These are the relationships where you are authentically seen, flaws and all, and still know you matter. Seek out those kindred spirits who inspire you to keep climbing, knowing you have a trusted crew by your side every step of the way. It is also an exchange, because they need to know they can count on you as a trusted crew member too.

As you nurture these essential connections, remember the power of two things: reaching out when you feel isolated, and staying grounded through your inner well-being practices, no matter the external circumstances. Embrace the Pursuit of Balance practice of Gratitude each day with this simple ritual:

Take time each day to acknowledge what you are thankful for, whether it's the sound of birds, a kind word, or the anchoring presence of a trusted relationship.

With love,

Kendra

PS. There are a few spots left for my Pursuit of Balance Immersion class that begins next month. Email support@kendragoheen.com for more information. I would love to have you join me on this journey!